Our emotions are running very high, because of that some people around us are dying. We flair to fast don’t spend time to think, and because of that some are ending up in the drink. The outcome does not favor them or many of us just creates a very big ruckus. They become fearful of going out anywhere. We do not win the battle this way only create more problems that will linger and maybe stay.
We need to have a voice unite among us all. Instead of feeling like we are pushed against the wall. Our reactions don’t need to be so aggressive all the time. There are things we can do maybe respond more kind. Its learning to cope in this “hot-headed” time. Lets take a look and see what good ideas we can find.
Responding Vs Reacting
*Give yourself thinking time before responding.
*Positive “Self-Talk” be calm, walk away, you don’t need the last word, you don’t have to agree.. “agree to disagree”.
*Take meditation time..Know your thoughts and feelings.
*Identify your personal red flags and negative triggers.
*Be Aware of over reacting because of your past experiences with others in life.
*Learn how to say “No”.
*Use healthy distressors.
*Take a time out Leave the area, Don’t drink and drive or use drugs, Deep breathing, Call a friend, Clear your mind of negative thoughts feelings and behaviors as much as possible.
Defusing…. Are these things Helpful or Harmful? Ask yourself:
Yelling at someone?, Name calling?, Flipping someone off?, Refusing to talk?, Resentment?, Attacking physically?, Drinking or using drugs?
TO LET GO:
To let go is not to stop caring: its recognizing I can’t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off. Its realizing I cant control another. To Let go is not to enable but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is not to fight powerlessness but to accept that the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try to change or blame others it’s to make the most of myself. To let go is not to care for its to care about. To let go is not to fix its to be supportive. To let go is not to judge its to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to try to arrange outcomes but to allow others to affect their own destinies.
To let go is not to be protective it’s to permit another to face their own reality. To let go is not to regulate anyone but to strive to become what you dream you can be
To let go is not to fear less, but to love more…….Blessing